Wednesday, July 15, 2009

To all you Mothers...just a little uplift!!!

Ok...so some of you know and some don't...but I've really been struggling a LOT lately. I've kind of turned into a hermit and shut myself off from the world, family, friends, pretty much everything. But I'm coming to realize that's NOT the answer!! I had hormonal and emotional issues when I was pregnant with Aysha...but they didn't start until I was 30+ weeks along. So I dealt with it. Well this time it's come at 14 weeks and isn't stopping. I've talked to friends, doctors, family, and mostly my hubby...and we're trying to get through it and work it out. For any of you who know me, know that I'm NOT a depressed, down, sad, unhappy person...well that's how I've been lately. Tired, crabby, no energy, no ambition, depressed, stressed, and everything else.
ANYWAYS...enough about that...I went to ask my bishop (leader of our church/area for those that don't know) for some help this last week, and he gave me something from a General Conference talk. He told me to read and study it, so I've taken it to heart and I have been this week. There are parts that have really hit home with me, and I wanted to share some with you guys, because we're all mommy's and all going through hard times and struggles at one time or another.
So here's the quote I wanted to share...it's a talk entitled "Because She is a Mother" by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, in the April 1997 conference.
It says:

"I especially wish to praise and encourage young mothers. The work of a mother is hard, too often unheralded work. The young years are often those when either husband or wife-or both-may still be in school or in those earliest and leanest stages of developing the husband's bread-winning capacities. Finances fluctuate daily between low and nonexistent. The apartment is usually decorated in one of two smart designs-Deseret Industries (the goodwill out here) provincial or early Mother Hubbard. The car, if there is one, runs on smooth tires and an empty tank. But with night feedings and night teethings, often the greatest challenge of all for a young mother is simply fatigue. Through these years, mothers go longer on less sleep and give more to others with less personal renewal for themselves than any other group I know at any other time in life. It is not surprising when the shadows under their eyes sometimes vaguely resemble the state of Rhode Island.
..."Do the best you can through these years, but whatever else you do, cherish that role that is so uniquely yours and for which heaven itself sends angels to watch over you and your little ones...."

So I hope that can uplift you guys in some way and help you all realize you're not alone...I know I'm not alone, and that there are LOTS of people out there that care. We can all use a little helper once in awhile to get us through the next week!!! Hope this can help some of you in that way!!!

9 comments:

Karla said...

That is a really good quote, I will have to go back and re-read the whole talk.

I can imagine what you are going through... sometimes I find myself wondering those negative thoughts "he didn't even notice..." or "can't they just go to bed tonight without a fight..." and I am constantly saying, "I am SOOO tired!" It doesn't take long though for those little things that make you smile then I know that it makes up for the trying times. Those little, "Oh mom, you look so cute!" or when they want to hold your hand or just come up and kiss you for no reason. I also love the excitement of little toddlers when you arrive home from some short errand and thier eyes light up and they say, "Mom, your home! I missed you!" Sometimes those are the little things that get us "moms" through the tough times that have come and that will come. I hope you are finding those little precious things too in your life of little ones. It is hard, but I have found that is it always worth it! Keep your heart open and you will find the joy in it all. :)

Klous Family said...

Becki, I'm really sorry to hear that you have been struggling so much again. I hope things get better for you. Thank you for sharing that quote. Our roles as mothers is so hard but so worth it. I have yet to meet anyone who loves me as much as my children. Real~sincere~pure love and adoration. In there eyes I can do no wrong and they forgive and FORGET like the scrapes they get on their knees. Crabby mom comes and goes but they never seem to hold it against me from one crabby moment to the next. They are wonderful!! I hope things get better for you. I can't begin to understand what you are going through but I'm thinking about you and always here if you wanna talk/chat whatever and whenever. Love you!

jmholloway said...

OK, so I don't know you, but I saw your post title on Adrienne Jenson's blog. I wanted to tell you that your post was the reason I am still up right now. I have been down all day(really for several days now) and I thought I must just be tired, but I couldn't get to sleep(which is really wierd for me). I got up and posted some pictures that are overdue for display and then started reading blogs, when I came across yours. I feel like I have been thanked from an apostle and the Lord which is really needed right now. You are probably thinking how wierd is this girl, but I wanted to let you know that your post has helped me and I cannot thank you enough for sharing it. I pray that everything goes well with the rest of your pregnancy and that your spirits will rise and stay up. Thank you again.

Mindi Holloway

Steven & Adrienne said...

Thanks, I really needed that. Sometimes I wonder why pregnancy brings on so many emotions and causes me to become a crazy woman...but I guess it is one of those trials I have to learn to overcome and grow from. Keep smiling and laughing and remember you have tons of people, especially me who appreciate you, your words of wisdom, your smile, and your laughter!! Thanks again for the quotes to remind us of our purpose of being moms.

ChasingChasey said...

I love you, and I'm here for you whatever you need.

Wendy said...

I know I've read that before, but, boy, did I ever need to read that again. Thank you.

Shelly said...

Thanks for the timely reminder! Elder Holland is wonderful.

Mike and Jana Black said...

I guess now I can give myself a little break. I feel like I'm going to look back on the early 2000's years and think they're just a blur.

Todd and Lilly Corbett said...

Thanks Becky I needed that!